At a Glance
- Category
- Other
- Also Known As
- Going commando, daring outfits, sexy dressing, freeballing
- Intensity Range
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Subtle to Bold
- Requires
- Nothing special - just confidence and the right clothing choices
- Good For
- Beginners Couples Solo exploration
What is Frivolous Outings?
Frivolous outings refers to the practice of going out in public wearing revealing clothing, unusually short skirts or dresses, or simply choosing to forgo underwear entirely. This kink centers on the private thrill of knowing something daring about your appearance that others may or may not notice.
Unlike more overt forms of exhibitionism, frivolous outings typically involve a subtle secret. You might be at a restaurant, shopping, or attending a social event while harboring the knowledge that you're wearing something particularly risqué beneath your outer clothing—or nothing at all. The excitement comes from this hidden transgression rather than from actively seeking to expose yourself to others.
This practice exists at the intersection of personal empowerment and playful naughtiness. For many, frivolous outings represent a way to feel sexy and confident while going about everyday activities. The experience can be enjoyed solo as a personal secret or shared with a partner who knows about your daring choice.
Why People Enjoy It
The Secret Thrill
Carrying a private, slightly taboo secret creates a low-level excitement that can make ordinary activities feel electric. Knowing you're doing something subtly naughty while appearing completely normal to everyone else provides a unique kind of rush.
Heightened Body Awareness
Going without underwear or wearing minimal clothing naturally makes you more conscious of your body. The sensation of fabric against bare skin or the awareness of being more exposed creates a persistent, pleasant physical reminder throughout your day.
Confidence and Empowerment
Many people find that frivolous outings boost their confidence. Making a daring choice about your own body and presentation—regardless of whether anyone else knows—can feel genuinely empowering.
Partner Connection
When shared with a partner, frivolous outings create a delicious conspiracy between two people. Knowing your partner's secret while in public together adds an intimate layer to otherwise mundane activities like dinner or errands.
The Intensity Spectrum
This practice can be experienced at different intensity levels.
Wearing slightly more revealing clothing than usual, perhaps a lower neckline or shorter hemline. You might also choose particularly thin or sheer underwear that makes you feel secretly sexy while remaining completely covered.
Going without underwear beneath regular clothing like jeans or a casual dress. The choice is invisible to observers, but you're constantly aware of the difference in sensation and the knowledge of your hidden secret.
Wearing noticeably revealing outfits to appropriate venues—perhaps a very short dress to a club, sheer fabric over lingerie, or visible lingerie elements as part of your outfit. At this level, others may notice your daring choices.
Combining frivolous outings with other elements like wearing a short skirt without underwear in situations where the potential for accidental exposure exists, or coordinating with a partner for controlled reveals in semi-public settings.
Getting Started
Start Small
Begin with choices that feel comfortable for you. Simply switching from full underwear to a thong, or choosing a slightly more fitted top than usual, can be enough to capture the initial thrill.
Choose Your Setting
Consider where you'll feel both excited and comfortable. A casual dinner out, shopping trip, or evening walk might be ideal first experiences. Avoid high-stakes situations initially.
Dress Strategically
If going without underwear, consider practical factors. Dark colors hide more, and certain fabrics feel better against bare skin. Ensure your outer clothing provides adequate coverage for your comfort level.
Tell Your Partner (If Applicable)
If you're in a relationship, sharing your secret with your partner can double the fun. A whispered confession early in an evening out creates shared anticipation.
Build Gradually
As you become comfortable, gradually explore bolder choices. The progression should feel exciting, not anxiety-inducing. There's no timeline or goal—only your own enjoyment.
Safety & Communication
Consent and Consideration
While frivolous outings are about your personal experience, remain mindful of context. Ensure your choices are appropriate for the setting and won't make others uncomfortable. Private thrills shouldn't impose on unsuspecting people.
Communication with Partners
If exploring this with a partner, discuss boundaries clearly. What situations feel exciting versus uncomfortable? Does one of you want to "choose" what the other wears? Establish signals for if either of you wants to leave a situation.
Practical Safety
Consider weather, activity level, and venue appropriateness. Going commando during a vigorous hike or in freezing temperatures prioritizes thrill over comfort unwisely.
Know Your Limits
Pay attention to how different situations make you feel. Excitement is the goal—genuine anxiety or discomfort means you've pushed past your current comfort zone. Scale back without judgment.
Legal Awareness
While wearing revealing clothing or going without underwear is generally legal, actual exposure in public is not. Keep your frivolous outings within legal boundaries, focusing on the internal experience rather than external display.
Frequently Asked Questions
Generally, no. Many people find it comfortable and there's no medical reason requiring underwear. However, certain fabrics like rough denim might cause irritation without a barrier. Choose soft, breathable outer garments and maintain normal hygiene practices.
Frame it as something exciting you'd like to try together. You might say, "I've been thinking about wearing something daring when we go out Saturday—would you find that fun?" Most partners respond positively to invitations for shared adventure.
These concerns are normal. Start with situations where you feel confident about coverage—perhaps pants rather than skirts, or longer dresses. As you gain comfort, you'll naturally learn what works for different scenarios.
Absolutely. While often discussed in terms of women's clothing, men can experience the same thrill from going commando, wearing shorter shorts, or choosing fitted clothing. The psychological elements—secret knowledge, body awareness, confidence—apply regardless of gender.
Frivolous outings focus primarily on your internal experience—the private knowledge and physical sensation of your daring choices. Exhibitionism centers more on the desire to be seen by others. There's overlap, but frivolous outings can be entirely about your personal secret with no intention of anyone else noticing.
