At a Glance
- Category
- BDSM
- Also Known As
- Erotic asphyxiation, asphyxiophilia, breath control, Atemkontrolle
- Intensity Range
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High to Extreme
- Requires
- Extensive education, First Aid/CPR training, emergency preparedness; **Life-threatening activity**
- Good For
- Only those who fully accept life-threatening risks; never for beginners
What is Breath Play?
Breath play is the deliberate restriction of oxygen to heighten sexual arousal--and it's one of the most dangerous kinks you can explore. This isn't manual neck pressure during sex (that's choking, risky enough on its own). We're talking masks that trap CO2, ligatures around the throat, chest compression that stops your lungs from expanding.
The appeal? When your oxygen-starved brain floods with endorphins and dopamine, it creates an intense neurochemical rush. The reality? Approximately 250 to 1,000 people die every year in the U.S. from autoerotic asphyxiation alone, and partnered breath play has its own body count.
Here's what makes this breath control kink different from other edge play: there is no safe method. Unlike bondage or spanking, where proper technique substantially reduces danger, breath play involves direct interference with life-sustaining systems. Cut blood flow to the brain, and you've got 5 to 11 seconds before consciousness is gone. Brain cells start dying at the 3-minute mark. By 8 minutes without oxygen, you're looking at permanent damage or death.
This page focuses on the various breath play methods beyond basic choking, each carrying unique risk profiles. Understanding these differences matters for anyone making informed decisions about their own bodies and risks.
Getting Started
Understand that "getting started" means accepting potentially fatal risk
Let's be blunt. This isn't a practice you try after reading one article and watching a few videos. Every method--every single one--carries genuine risk of death, brain damage, or serious injury. If that sentence doesn't make you pause, you're not ready. Education comes first. Practice (if you choose it at all) comes much, much later.
Learn anatomy and physiology
Here's what you actually need to know. Carotid restriction cuts blood flow to the brain. Tracheal compression closes the airway. Frontal neck pressure can fracture the larynx like snapping a pencil. The vagus nerve can trigger cardiac arrest without warning--no pain, no symptoms, just sudden collapse. Read medical sources (actual anatomy textbooks, peer-reviewed research), not just community guides written by people who learned from other community guides.
Complete First Aid and CPR certification
Both partners should know how to recognize unconsciousness versus cardiac arrest, when to use recovery position versus CPR, and when to call emergency services. This is non-negotiable preparation.
Establish non-verbal communication
Safe words become impossible when breath is restricted. Agree on physical signals, such as dropping a held object, hand taps, or squeezing a toy that makes noise. Test these signals before any scene begins.
Never practice alone
The research is clear: solo breath play is extraordinarily dangerous. Self-rescue mechanisms fail. There's no one to call for help. If you're considering autoerotic practice, understand that this choice dramatically increases your risk of death.
Frequently Asked Questions
Choking typically refers specifically to pressure on the neck. Breath play is the broader category that includes choking but also encompasses masks, hoods, bags, chest compression, positional restriction, and other methods of limiting oxygen. All forms carry serious risks, but each method has unique dangers. Ligatures can tighten unexpectedly. Masks and bags cause CO2 buildup. Chest compression can damage ribs and organs.
It usually starts small. Someone discovers the rush, doesn't have a partner they trust (or doesn't want to explain this to anyone), and figures they can manage it themselves. Maybe they rig up a "safety" mechanism--a slipknot they can pull, a belt they can release. The problem? Autoerotic asphyxiation deaths aren't failures of planning. They're failures of physiology. You pass out in 5 to 11 seconds. Your carefully designed escape plan? Useless when you're unconscious. This is why the vast majority of breath play fatalities happen solo. It's not that partnered play is safe--it's that solo play removes the one thing that might save you: another conscious human being who can call 911.
Release all restrictions immediately. If the person is unconscious but breathing normally, place them in the recovery position (on their side). If they're not breathing or showing only gasping breaths, begin CPR and call 911 immediately. Don't delay calling for help out of embarrassment. Be honest with emergency responders about what happened, as this affects treatment. Monitor for delayed symptoms over the next 48 hours.
No breath play method is safe, but risk profiles differ. Simulated breath play with no actual restriction carries the lowest physical risk. Ligature-based methods are particularly dangerous because they can tighten unexpectedly and aren't always quickly removable. Autoerotic practice of any type carries exponentially higher risk. Understanding these differences helps with informed decision-making, but don't mistake "less dangerous" for "safe."